Change in couples therapy does not come from insight alone, but from how you relate to each other in real time.
Couples Therapy
When couples come to Therapy
Many couples seek therapy when communication has broken down, conflicts repeat, or a sense of distance has begun to grow between them.
Often both partners care deeply about the relationship, yet find themselves caught in patterns of criticism, withdrawal, defensiveness, or misunderstanding - that are difficult to shift alone.
Couples therapy offers a structured space to slow these dynamics down and understand what is happening between you.
From there, new ways of communicating and relating can begin to emerge.
Couples come to therapy at many different points in their relationship.
Sometimes the relationship is in crisis. At other times, partners simply sense that the way you are relating is no longer working.
Common themes include:
• recurring arguments that never seem to resolve
• emotional distance or loss of connection
• difficulty communicating needs without conflict
• breaches of trust or significant relationship ruptures
• intimacy and sexuality
• navigating major life transitions together
• balancing autonomy and partnership
Couples therapy provides a space where these dynamics can be explored honestly and constructively, and where new ways of relating can be developed.
How I Work with Couples
Couples therapy requires both emotional presence and clear structure. My role is to help you understand the patterns between you while supporting each person to take responsibility for their part in the dynamic.
In our work, we focus not only on individual feelings, but on what happens between you - especially in the moments where communication breaks down.
We slow these moments down and look closely at how each of you responds.
Many couples find themselves in repeating cycles - one partner pursuing, the other withdrawing, or both reacting defensively when tension rises.
Recognising these patterns is essential. Learning how to interrupt them is where change begins.
This means developing the capacity to stay present in difficult moments, while also taking responsibility for how you impact each other.
Over time, this can lead to clearer communication, greater respect in conflict, and a renewed sense of connection.
Practical Details
Couples sessions last 50 or 90 minutes and take place online or in person in North London.
Session fee: 50 minutes: £140. 90 Minutes: £240
Some couples attend weekly during the early stages of the work, while others prefer a slightly slower rhythm.
Getting in Touch
If you are considering couples therapy, the first step is simply to begin a conversation.
You are welcome to get in touch by email to briefly share what brings you to therapy. From there we can arrange an initial conversation and explore whether working together feels like the right fit.