Our relationships are powerful tools for growth. They will evoke our most beautiful and our most painful parts.

Couples Therapy

COUPLES THERAPY is a safe and respectful space for you to look at the challenges and points of tension between you.

Difficulties in a relationship are in themselves a normal and natural part of life. When we come together and commit to each other, our sore spots will inadvertently be touched. And when we hurt, our default ways of self-protection get activated: We go quiet and disappear into ways of avoidance or get expressive and criticise or blame.

The dynamic that is set in motion always has roots in beliefs and attachments patterns that were set up early in life. A difficulty in the now is never just about the now.

Couples therapy can help you unpack what is activated between you. It can give you tools to undo the conditioning, solve the problems in the now and create expansion and growth together.

Emotional disconnection, lack of physical intimacy, unequal power dynamics, infidelity/breach of trust, feelings of loneliness, difficulties in communication, easy triggers, stagnant roles, pregnancy/IVF journey, postpartum reconnection, cross-cultural relationships, open relationships, new/second families are all areas of expertise.

How I work

My purpose is to support you as a couple to embrace the future you desire. We do this by looking at the difficulties you are experiencing to identify the deeper issues, rooted in your individual attachment patterns. This allows us to work on an axis that contains both past, present and future.

I give particular importance to identifying the strengths and qualities of your relationship, to create a solid ground for addressing the areas of tension. I see any situation as created equally by the two of you, and take great care in keeping a balanced perspective that includes multiple truths and experiences.

My couples work combines cognitive talk therapy with emotional awareness and attention to sensation and body language. Empathic understanding, emotional atunement and gentle, physical connection are all elements that we use actively in the work.

I’ll often give you suggestions to practice between the sessions.

Sessions are 50 or 90 minutes weekly or every other week, online or in person in North London. £140 per 50 minutes, £240 per 90 minutes.

My approach is experiential but knowledge-based, supported by neuroscience, attachment theory, couples therapy, trauma therapy, transpersonal psychotherapy, body intelligence, psychosexual therapy, leadership coaching, consciousness studies and perennial and indigenous wisdom traditions.

My approach

I translate psychological understanding and transpersonal awareness to a personal, relational and professional context. My style is gentle but authentic and clear. Clients often find the impact of our sessions to be powerful and transformative.