If you are curious about what happens in relationships when connection becomes difficult, when misunderstandings grow, or when you no longer feel seen, this group may be for you.
What Happens to Contact?
An 8-week online Relational Inquiry Group
Thursdays, 7:00–8.30pm UK New group beginning September 18th, 2026
Relationships rarely break down because of a single disagreement, difficult conversation, or difference of opinion.
More often, something else happens.
People stop feeling understood. They stop feeling visible.
They begin protecting themselves. They start responding to what they expect rather than what is actually happening.
Gradually, contact is lost.
This group explores a simple but profound question:
What happens to contact?
Over eight weeks, we come together as a small group to explore how connection is disrupted by fear, shame, conflict, overwhelm, uncertainty, and difference.
Through a combination of short teaching segments, reflection, and live relational exploration, participants develop a deeper understanding of the patterns that shape their relationships.
The aim is not to provide advice or solutions.
It is to develop the capacity to see more clearly what happens between people, and what allows contact to return.
The Work
Each week begins with an exploration of a relational theme drawn from my ongoing work exploring what happens to contact in human relationships.
Themes may include:
feeling seen and understood
prediction and perception
shame and self-protection
difference and conflict
invisible labour
repair and reconnection
The group then becomes a live space for inquiry.
Participants are invited to bring current relational experiences from their lives, and together we explore not only the stories being told, but the relational processes unfolding beneath them.
The group offers an opportunity to:
recognise patterns as they emerge
understand what happens when contact is disrupted
develop greater awareness of relational dynamics
explore new ways of staying present in relationship
deepen the capacity for perception, reflection, and connection
This is not group therapy in the traditional sense.
Nor is it a course or a skills-based programme.
It is a guided relational inquiry into how human beings lose and recover contact with one another.
This group forms part of an ongoing inquiry into what happens in relationships when contact is disrupted, and what allows it to return.
Who is this group for?
• Therapists and coaches
• People interested in relationships and human behaviour
• Those wanting to understand their recurring relational patterns
• Those curious about how human connection is lost and restored
• Those wishing to develop greater awareness of what happens to contact between people
What Is Included
• 8 live 90-minute online group sessions
• Weekly exploration of a relational theme
• Short teaching segments introducing key concepts and questions
• Guided relational inquiry and group dialogue
• Opportunities to explore current relationship experiences in a supportive environment
• Reflection on patterns as they emerge in real time
• A small, consistent group (8–10 participants)
• Space for curiosity, observation, and shared learning
Practicalities
Fee: £300
Deposit: £50 upon acceptance
Dates: September 18th, 24th, October 1st, 8th, 15th, 22nd, 29th, November 5th, 2026
If you have questions or would like to register your interest, you are welcome to get in touch.
What is a Relational Inquiry Group?
A relational inquiry group is a space to explore how relationships work in practice.
Together, we investigate what happens when connection becomes difficult, when misunderstandings arise, when we feel unseen, or when conflict, shame, fear, or uncertainty enter a relationship.
The emphasis is less on finding solutions and more on learning to see what is happening.
Is this group therapy?
No. While many people may find the experience personally meaningful and beneficial, this is not a psychotherapy group.
The primary focus is inquiry, reflection, and relational understanding rather than therapeutic treatment.
Do I need previous therapy experience?
No. The group is open to anyone with an interest in relationships, self-awareness, and understanding human connection more deeply.
Curiosity is more important than prior experience.
What happens during a session?
Each session begins with a short exploration of a relational theme or question.
The group then moves into discussion, reflection, and live exploration of participants' experiences.
Rather than focusing solely on events that happened elsewhere, we also pay attention to what emerges within the group itself.
This often helps make relational patterns more visible and easier to understand.
Do I have to share personal experiences?
No. You are welcome to participate at a pace that feels right for you.
Many people find that listening to others and reflecting on their own experiences is valuable in itself.
How many people will be in the group?
The group is intentionally small (8–10 participants) to support continuity, depth, and meaningful enquiry.
What if I miss a session?
Missing one session is usually manageable, though regular attendance is encouraged in order to support continuity for both yourself and the group.
How do I know if this is right for me?
You are welcome to arrange a brief introductory conversation.
This offers an opportunity to explore whether the group feels like a good fit for where you are right now.